There are several things that need to be taken care of when getting into a relationship. It is not easy to build a relationship nor is it easy to retain one. It takes a lot of hard work and unlike what most movies and books would like us to believe it is not as rosy and smooth as we would like to believe. But we can give it our best shot to ensure we get the best out of any situation.
It is important to have a clear picture about the sort of person you’d want to spend the rest of your life with. If you meet people and fall for just about anyone then it will only result in unsuccessful attempts and heartache. Don’t fall for the first person who gives you attention. He or she may seem appealing but the truth is that this person may not be ‘the one’. You will only know when you have understood what exactly you want.
That is a difficult task and almost a dilemma for most. What do we want? We think of so many qualities in different people and we think that if only all of them were in one individual. All of us want the whole package. But what is the whole package? Is it a physical thing? Is it an emotional thing? No one really knows. What we can rely on is our gut instinct. Learn to develop your sixth sense. All of us have it and we must be honest with ourselves when we are trying to figure this out.
Be honest with yourself when you feel attracted to a person. Is it because he or she is good looking or is it because of a connection or bond? Which ever works for you, you should immediately pursue it. Go for the bond. Do not be superficial. It is always the connection that takes you through a successful relationship. So don’t let your self be carried away with just a physical attraction. Assess the person carefully before plunging in.
Rejection will be a part of life and the only way to overcome it is to learn from the mistakes and not repeat them again. Do repeat the same mistakes with different people. Learn about your expectations from the previous failures and then plunge in with your fingers crossed. Hopefully, the next one is ‘the one’ for you.