Bad phases are revered by self-improvement. It’s not the partner but you that need to change, most of the times. The self improvement can only begin if you are willing to. This is a difficult process and results will show only gradually with time. For those looking for a quick way out must realize now itself that there is no quick way out. The process is slow and difficult but the results are worth it. You need to be able to assert your self control whenever you feel weak or defeated. Don’t be timid and don’t feel like a victim. Life is out there for you to grab it and don’t beat around the bush feeling for yourself or living in some self deluded bubble.
It takes time to open up and especially for those with low self esteem and a victim-complex this can certainly be a challenge. It is important to understand that fear is in the mind. No one can feel your fear but you.
You must approach the topics that you think are important with your partner. A ‘no’ should not mean you go back to hiding in your shell; rather it is the best way to start again and improve on your approaching skills. You need to cultivate self control to combat this fear and anxiety within. Being bold not only helps you gain control of your own life but opens up new possibilities for you. Being shy can lead to a lot of negativity. There might be a lot of anger, resentment and even a false sense of superiority brewing inside that will only amplify if you don’t open up and start accepting life as it comes. It never helps having a wimpy and timid nature; people will only pity you then. Be bold and absorb all the good things that come in life. This will only result in a positive change and help in the self transformation tremendously.
Gain control of your own life. It is often that we feel like we are losing control of ourselves. Every time you are faced with this feeling of losing your grip in life, just pause and don’t over think it. It is important to gain control of your own life. The biggest mistake we do when we think we have no control over our lives is we crib and whine and blame everything and everyone in our lives.